Listen
Each Sunday someone in my church congregation starts the service with what we call "first word". Occasionally I am asked to give the "first word". This coming Sunday I will be doing so. What has been on my mind to share is the word, Listen. So often, in conversation with another, we forget to really listen. By listening we need to truly hear them and not put our own agenda and assumptions into the basket. We need to listen and clarify when we don't quite get it. Do you find this as irritating as I do when I share and the person doesn't really hear my heart? Did I need to share it in a different way, so they hear?
I will be reading a Mary Oliver poem from Why I Wake Early for them.
"Just a minute," said a voice......
"Just a minute," said a voice in the weeds.
So I stood still
in the day's exquisite early morning light
and so I didn't crush with my great feet
any small or unusual thing just happening to pass by
where I was passing by
on my way to the blueberry fields,
and maybe it was the toad
and maybe it was the June beetle
and maybe it was the pink and tender worm
who does his work without limbs or eyes
and does it well
or maybe it was the walking stick, still frail
and walking humbly by, looking for a tree,
or maybe, like Blake's wondrous meeting, it was
the elves, carrying one of their own
on a rose petal coffin away, away
into the deep grasses. After awhile
the quaintest voice said, "Thank you" And then there was silence.
For the rest, I would keep you wondering.
Now what I heard from this poem that the writer was listening. The writer responded by hearing what the speaker said and then the writer thought on these words of "Just a minute" and "Thank you". Do we truly hear, do we listen and take the words into our wonderment?
At the end of my sharing we will be singing a song written by Ken Medema:
Teach me to stop and listen,
Teach me to center down,
Teach me the use of silence,
Teach me where peace is found.Teach me to hear your calling.
Teach me to search your word,
Teach me to hear in silence,
Things I have never heard.Teach me to be collected,
Teach me to be in tune.
Teach me to be directed,
Silence will end so soon.Then when it’s time for moving,
Grant it that I may bring,
To every day and moment
Peace from a silent spring.
Can you tell listening and hearing are very important to me? If you met me in person you would know that I am a person of few words, one reason sometimes my posts are not long. But on the other hand I want to be heard when I speak. I am passionate about this and could go on and on about how much it irritates me when in a group and people are speaking over each other and turning the subject around or on to themselves. It is a "discussion" my own husband (my "live-in gardener") and I have sometimes.
So for today my word is LISTEN. Take it to heart, learn to hold another in the silence of your listening.
Thanks, dear friends, for listening.
"Listen" is a good word, and one of the best words in our vocabulary. I know what you mean about being in a group and people are speaking over each other. That has happened to me many times. This is a lovely photo with a single teacup on a bench waiting for someone to sip.
ReplyDeleteHave a blessed week, Marilyn.
~Sheri
To truly listen to someone is a blessing for them, and Mary Oliver's poem is brilliant. She is my favorite poet. Many times when people don't really listen they are waiting to talk about something different, rather sad.
ReplyDeleteWhat a very thoughtful post, Marilyn. Listening is so important and a gift to the one who must speak. Sometimes we say so much -- to just listen is to honor and respect someone. I love the poem -- I know your words will give those of your congregation much to consider and I hope they will -- listen.
ReplyDeleteI understand Marilyn. I, too, am a person of few words. I think alot but don't believe
ReplyDeletethat all of my thoughts need spoken. I really
enjoy your word of the week. Thank you for
sharing with us. Blessings.
I sometimes think the skill of listening is escaping humanity. To really listen one must be attentive to not only the words, but to body language, context, history and cultural aspects that play into communication. We must listen not only with our ears, but also our eyes and heart.
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